1 00:00:08,925 --> 00:00:10,885 {\an8}Ugh! 2 00:00:12,137 --> 00:00:15,932 Morris, for your information, Snoozy's mine! 3 00:00:15,932 --> 00:00:19,269 You're being a burglar. Say burglar. 4 00:00:19,269 --> 00:00:22,188 Viv, Mommy gave Snoozy to Morris to help him 5 00:00:22,188 --> 00:00:23,398 get excited for potty training. 6 00:00:23,398 --> 00:00:25,108 Why do you call yourself Mommy? 7 00:00:25,108 --> 00:00:27,569 I... don't know. 8 00:00:27,569 --> 00:00:28,820 Did you brush your teeth? - No. 9 00:00:28,820 --> 00:00:30,113 Go on, I asked you three times. 10 00:00:30,113 --> 00:00:31,823 Ugh! 11 00:00:31,823 --> 00:00:34,325 Oh, well, well, well, if it isn't Mr.-- 12 00:00:34,325 --> 00:00:36,161 - Can I have coffee? - Scruffy head. 13 00:00:36,161 --> 00:00:37,537 Ah! Blew my timing. 14 00:00:37,537 --> 00:00:39,205 It was not my best. - What are you saying? 15 00:00:39,205 --> 00:00:40,999 Felix, go brush your hair. It looks like you got 16 00:00:40,999 --> 00:00:42,584 a scalp massage. - I can't hear you. 17 00:00:42,584 --> 00:00:44,544 - Remove the headphones. - Dude, take the headphones off. 18 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,965 Okay, I'm going upstairs now. 19 00:00:49,632 --> 00:00:51,092 He really needs to work on his sarcasm. 20 00:00:51,092 --> 00:00:52,302 I mean, what was that? 21 00:00:52,302 --> 00:00:54,095 A big part of parenting 22 00:00:54,095 --> 00:00:55,513 is second-guessing your parenting. 23 00:00:55,513 --> 00:00:57,098 In avoiding your parents' mistakes, 24 00:00:57,098 --> 00:00:59,184 sometimes the pendulum swings too far the other way. 25 00:00:59,184 --> 00:01:00,727 Right. My parents were hands off, 26 00:01:00,727 --> 00:01:02,312 but maybe I've been too smothering? 27 00:01:02,312 --> 00:01:04,064 Mm-hmm, my parents were too strict. 28 00:01:04,064 --> 00:01:05,982 And I let the kids call me "stinky daddy". 29 00:01:05,982 --> 00:01:08,818 {\an8} Oh, I came up with stinky daddy, so uh, that's on me. 30 00:01:08,818 --> 00:01:11,863 I'm not loving this tween attitude on Felix. 31 00:01:11,863 --> 00:01:13,865 I mean, I'm all for rejecting authority, just not mine. 32 00:01:13,865 --> 00:01:15,909 Yeah. Viv's seeing a psychologist, 33 00:01:15,909 --> 00:01:17,494 Morris won't poop in a bucket. 34 00:01:17,494 --> 00:01:19,621 Are we screwing things up? - What? No! 35 00:01:19,621 --> 00:01:22,165 We got this. We're good parents. 36 00:01:22,165 --> 00:01:23,541 Hmm. 37 00:01:23,541 --> 00:01:25,502 Guys, Morris has an egg and a knife. 38 00:01:27,670 --> 00:01:28,922 How did he get the knife? 39 00:01:28,922 --> 00:01:30,548 - I thought we were out of eggs. 40 00:01:30,548 --> 00:01:32,383 - Come here, come here. Oh! - Morris, come here! 41 00:01:32,383 --> 00:01:33,802 James, the knife, get the knife. 42 00:01:33,802 --> 00:01:35,303 Okay, you get the egg. 43 00:01:37,555 --> 00:01:39,224 {\an8}Did you get to fill out 44 00:01:39,224 --> 00:01:41,184 {\an8}Viv's ADHD questionnaire for her session today? 45 00:01:41,184 --> 00:01:43,144 {\an8}No. I haven't started it. 46 00:01:43,144 --> 00:01:44,354 {\an8}But there's-there's time. 47 00:01:44,354 --> 00:01:46,022 {\an8}The ADHD assessment is a complex 48 00:01:46,022 --> 00:01:48,233 {\an8}and involved process that really wants us 49 00:01:48,233 --> 00:01:49,901 {\an8}to fill out like, a lot of little circles. 50 00:01:49,901 --> 00:01:52,028 {\an8}Viv is six. I asked her how she's feeling today, 51 00:01:52,028 --> 00:01:54,697 {\an8}she said, "Unicorn". What answers is she telling the doctor? 52 00:01:54,697 --> 00:01:56,950 {\an8}Well, Shauna would know. She's a professional psychologist. 53 00:01:56,950 --> 00:01:58,201 {\an8}I'm sure she knows what Viv means... 54 00:01:58,201 --> 00:01:59,410 {\an8}- Shauna. - ...when she says unicorn. 55 00:01:59,410 --> 00:02:00,954 {\an8}- Oh, Shauna. - It's just a name. 56 00:02:00,954 --> 00:02:02,831 {\an8}I mean, she overpronounces her words. 57 00:02:02,831 --> 00:02:04,749 {\an8}Thinking-G, feeling-G. 58 00:02:04,749 --> 00:02:06,751 {\an8}I don't need to hear the "G" in "ing". 59 00:02:06,751 --> 00:02:08,461 {\an8}- Okay. - Thank you. All right. 60 00:02:08,461 --> 00:02:10,380 {\an8}"Forgets what they're doing, never, rarely, often, always." 61 00:02:10,380 --> 00:02:11,923 {\an8}I mean, who doesn't forget what they're doing? 62 00:02:11,923 --> 00:02:13,383 {\an8}I forget what I'm doing in the shower sometimes. 63 00:02:13,383 --> 00:02:14,759 {\an8}You're probably avoiding the children. 64 00:02:14,759 --> 00:02:17,178 {\an8}But Viv forgets what she's doing often. 65 00:02:17,178 --> 00:02:19,264 {\an8}See, I would say sometimes. This is it. 66 00:02:19,264 --> 00:02:21,474 {\an8}How is a questionnaire gonna assess Viv? 67 00:02:21,474 --> 00:02:22,851 {\an8}We're giving different answers. 68 00:02:22,851 --> 00:02:25,019 {\an8}Now, I have been doing some reading 69 00:02:25,019 --> 00:02:27,522 {\an8}about child behaviour and-- - What, wait, when? 70 00:02:27,522 --> 00:02:30,692 {\an8}Okay. I've been following parenting accounts on Instagram. 71 00:02:30,692 --> 00:02:33,027 {\an8}I love Instagram. So many good TikToks on there. 72 00:02:33,027 --> 00:02:34,571 {\an8}Viv has trouble with transitions, 73 00:02:34,571 --> 00:02:36,531 {\an8}so why don't we support her by giving her a simple 74 00:02:36,531 --> 00:02:37,866 {\an8}heads up when a transition's coming? 75 00:02:37,866 --> 00:02:39,951 {\an8}Viv, we're leaving in five minutes! 76 00:02:39,951 --> 00:02:42,078 {\an8}I can't find my colouring book! 77 00:02:42,078 --> 00:02:44,789 {\an8}Why don't you stop looking for it in two? 78 00:02:45,957 --> 00:02:47,625 {\an8}What was I looking for? 79 00:02:47,625 --> 00:02:49,586 {\an8}Okay, go ahead, put me down for an often. 80 00:02:49,586 --> 00:02:51,337 {\an8}Yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and do that. 81 00:02:56,050 --> 00:02:57,802 You wanna show me your drawings while we wait? 82 00:02:57,802 --> 00:03:00,179 No. Why do we keep coming here? 83 00:03:00,179 --> 00:03:02,640 Well, sweetie, Shauna is like a doctor 84 00:03:02,640 --> 00:03:04,726 but for your thoughts and feelings. 85 00:03:04,726 --> 00:03:08,146 So, this is just a normal checkup, but for your brain. 86 00:03:08,146 --> 00:03:10,106 When can we get a dog? 87 00:03:10,106 --> 00:03:11,983 Okay, you're not even listening. 88 00:03:11,983 --> 00:03:13,651 Shauna! 89 00:03:13,651 --> 00:03:15,570 I did the drawings I told you about. 90 00:03:15,570 --> 00:03:18,281 Exciting-G! While I was waiting-G for you, 91 00:03:18,281 --> 00:03:21,075 I got your cocoa, Viv. - Sorry we're late again. 92 00:03:21,075 --> 00:03:22,493 Traffic was stupid. 93 00:03:22,493 --> 00:03:24,913 Ugh, Toronto traffic is maddening-G. 94 00:03:25,747 --> 00:03:29,751 Yeah. Hey um, can I talk to you for a moment? 95 00:03:29,751 --> 00:03:33,671 Uh, so I was just wondering how the evaluation was going? 96 00:03:33,671 --> 00:03:35,173 You know, Viv doesn't really tell us much. 97 00:03:35,173 --> 00:03:37,175 What she does share is sometimes made up, 98 00:03:37,175 --> 00:03:41,471 you know, she's invisible, or she's the president of the driveway, or... 99 00:03:41,471 --> 00:03:45,141 I'm wondering is the information you're getting reliable? 100 00:03:45,141 --> 00:03:51,272 I am getting-G information from a lot of sources, including-G, you. 101 00:03:51,272 --> 00:03:53,274 Have you done your questionnaires? 102 00:03:53,274 --> 00:03:55,526 Yeah, I finished 'em. Sorry they took so long. 103 00:03:55,526 --> 00:03:57,320 - Oh! - They are... 104 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,155 - Okay. - Sorry, that one has coffee on it. 105 00:03:59,155 --> 00:04:01,532 And butter. Can I just ask, 106 00:04:01,532 --> 00:04:07,288 how do you know what's ADHD and what's just like, a kid? 107 00:04:07,288 --> 00:04:09,791 I promise, I know what I'm doing-G. 108 00:04:13,461 --> 00:04:15,213 Oh, so close! 109 00:04:15,213 --> 00:04:17,006 So close. Can that be the last one? 110 00:04:17,006 --> 00:04:18,549 Go for the Kawhi bounce. Check this out. 111 00:04:18,549 --> 00:04:20,677 Is this the dagger? 112 00:04:20,677 --> 00:04:22,387 Hey, how come you're so boring today? 113 00:04:22,387 --> 00:04:24,681 I'm just trying to figure out what these Gero benefits get me. 114 00:04:24,681 --> 00:04:26,516 I'll tell you what they do not cover is electrolysis. 115 00:04:26,516 --> 00:04:29,936 And electrolysis is not what I thought it was. 116 00:04:29,936 --> 00:04:32,605 We think Viv might have ADHD. Or I do. 117 00:04:32,605 --> 00:04:34,232 Astrid thinks she's too young to be diagnosed. 118 00:04:34,232 --> 00:04:36,359 When I was a kid, I was diagnosed as gifted. 119 00:04:36,359 --> 00:04:38,194 - Oh. - I wasn't. 120 00:04:38,194 --> 00:04:39,779 - Oh no? You... - The real gifted kids 121 00:04:39,779 --> 00:04:41,948 would bully me in Latin. It was no bueno. 122 00:04:41,948 --> 00:04:43,825 Really did a number on my head. Just be careful. 123 00:04:43,825 --> 00:04:45,118 The building is on fire! 124 00:04:45,118 --> 00:04:47,245 'K, so we should leave then, yeah? 125 00:04:47,245 --> 00:04:50,498 Not literally on fire. But the flames of progress will scorch us. 126 00:04:50,498 --> 00:04:52,292 You know Yennefer from The Witcher? 127 00:04:52,292 --> 00:04:54,752 I... do not. 128 00:04:55,503 --> 00:04:57,046 That kind of fire. 129 00:04:59,173 --> 00:05:00,842 'K, well, speaking of being burned, 130 00:05:00,842 --> 00:05:03,011 I'm trying to figure out these Gero benefits and I was wondering-- 131 00:05:03,011 --> 00:05:05,305 This is no time to book a foot massage, James. 132 00:05:05,305 --> 00:05:07,598 Mr. Gero has hired Fintekoäly 133 00:05:07,598 --> 00:05:09,559 to automate checkouts at Gero's Groceries. 134 00:05:09,559 --> 00:05:12,270 We could be next. - What is Fintekoäly? 135 00:05:12,270 --> 00:05:13,813 They're a tech company from Finland. 136 00:05:13,813 --> 00:05:15,398 - Okay, that checks out. 137 00:05:15,398 --> 00:05:18,484 Gero's wants to replace us with software. 138 00:05:18,484 --> 00:05:20,236 We will fight the rise of machines. 139 00:05:20,236 --> 00:05:22,530 We'll eat at our desks, work through breaks, wear diapers. 140 00:05:22,530 --> 00:05:24,324 - Oh. - We are gonna outsmart 141 00:05:24,324 --> 00:05:26,117 their artificial intelligence. 142 00:05:28,453 --> 00:05:30,538 Get to work, Beth! 143 00:05:30,538 --> 00:05:32,081 - Oof. - Starting to feel 144 00:05:32,081 --> 00:05:33,708 a lot like my gifted days. 145 00:05:34,417 --> 00:05:37,086 - How many days was that? - Like, four. 146 00:05:41,174 --> 00:05:42,717 Man jugglers. 147 00:05:42,717 --> 00:05:44,844 Okay, like some jugglers are impressive because of danger, 148 00:05:44,844 --> 00:05:46,679 like they're juggling axes or fire. 149 00:05:46,679 --> 00:05:48,806 Oh, uh, you don't have to take notes for this, by the way. 150 00:05:48,806 --> 00:05:50,725 Oh, I'm not. I stopped listening 151 00:05:50,725 --> 00:05:52,810 after you said street magicians are important. 152 00:05:52,810 --> 00:05:55,104 Just trying to discredit all of child psychology. 153 00:05:55,104 --> 00:05:56,898 - Is this for work? - Uh, no. 154 00:05:56,898 --> 00:05:58,775 I'll finish my work later, after I start it. 155 00:05:58,775 --> 00:06:01,277 I'm trying to find if this doctor has any bad reviews, 156 00:06:01,277 --> 00:06:03,946 or pharmaceutical ties, or recorded Karen moments. 157 00:06:03,946 --> 00:06:05,573 I've got an update. 158 00:06:05,573 --> 00:06:10,161 I have an address, tax records, and I'm her LinkedIn friend. 159 00:06:10,161 --> 00:06:12,288 I'm really starting to understand this woman. 160 00:06:12,288 --> 00:06:14,749 Okay, I'm looking for some dirt, not to steal her identity. 161 00:06:14,749 --> 00:06:16,375 Oh, she's so good. You'd be surprised 162 00:06:16,375 --> 00:06:17,794 how many times she's catfished me. 163 00:06:17,794 --> 00:06:19,754 - Is it 15? - It's 15! 164 00:06:19,754 --> 00:06:21,756 What have you learned about Shauna? 165 00:06:21,756 --> 00:06:24,050 Illegitimate degree? History of fraud? 166 00:06:24,050 --> 00:06:25,968 Is she always wrong? 167 00:06:25,968 --> 00:06:28,387 She's well liked, respected, and she donates to a donkey rescue. 168 00:06:28,387 --> 00:06:30,306 - Aw. - I know. 169 00:06:32,975 --> 00:06:36,562 But maybe I can find some dirt on her Spotify. 170 00:06:36,979 --> 00:06:38,106 Ooh! 171 00:06:39,232 --> 00:06:40,858 Sometimes, we need to have like, 172 00:06:40,858 --> 00:06:42,944 a private conversation in front of our children. 173 00:06:42,944 --> 00:06:45,446 So, we have to speak in a coded language we call Parentuguese. 174 00:06:45,446 --> 00:06:47,949 You guys get it too. End pieces still avail. 175 00:06:48,991 --> 00:06:52,328 {\an8}So, I understand how somebody could think 176 00:06:52,328 --> 00:06:55,248 {\an8}they have the thing, but not actually have the thing. 177 00:06:55,248 --> 00:06:57,500 - What thing? - Felix, finish your dinner. 178 00:06:57,500 --> 00:07:00,211 Viv, come on, sit down, please. Sit down and finish your dinner. 179 00:07:00,211 --> 00:07:02,338 {\an8}I was also thinking about the thing. 180 00:07:02,338 --> 00:07:04,298 {\an8}Gus' parents let him drink mochaccinos. 181 00:07:04,298 --> 00:07:05,466 {\an8}That's insane. 182 00:07:06,384 --> 00:07:07,885 {\an8}So, at first I thought S was BS, 183 00:07:07,885 --> 00:07:10,430 {\an8}but I did some digging and it turns out 184 00:07:10,430 --> 00:07:13,057 {\an8}that S knows everything there is to know about the thing. 185 00:07:13,057 --> 00:07:17,103 {\an8}Now, S does really like the Red Hot Chili Peppers, 186 00:07:17,103 --> 00:07:19,564 {\an8}but I'm willing to let that one go. 187 00:07:20,398 --> 00:07:22,233 {\an8}You know, Ennis thought he had a thing 188 00:07:22,233 --> 00:07:24,026 {\an8}and he didn't have it. - Huh? 189 00:07:24,026 --> 00:07:26,279 {\an8}I mean, it's not the same thing, but like, still. 190 00:07:26,279 --> 00:07:28,739 - Can I get a thing? - Can it be a dog? 191 00:07:28,739 --> 00:07:30,074 Viv, back in your seat. 192 00:07:30,074 --> 00:07:32,076 I asked you twice already. - Ugh. 193 00:07:32,076 --> 00:07:34,912 {\an8}You know, everyone I work with has some form of the thing. 194 00:07:34,912 --> 00:07:38,124 {\an8}And they all say that S is the best thing for the thing. 195 00:07:39,041 --> 00:07:41,377 Gus says mochaccinos are lit. 196 00:07:41,377 --> 00:07:43,504 {\an8}Gus says the cutest things I've ever heard. 197 00:07:43,504 --> 00:07:45,089 {\an8}- Wow, wow, wow, wow. 198 00:07:45,089 --> 00:07:47,049 {\an8}Viv, back in your seat. Sit down. 199 00:07:47,049 --> 00:07:49,302 Why doesn't Morris have to sit at the table? 200 00:07:49,302 --> 00:07:51,262 Well, because Morris is in a high chair. 201 00:07:51,262 --> 00:07:53,389 - He's gone. - What? 202 00:07:55,975 --> 00:07:57,518 He's got the knife and egg again. 203 00:07:57,518 --> 00:07:59,562 What? How? Where does he keep finding the eggs? 204 00:08:05,318 --> 00:08:07,778 Thank you for being-G on time. 205 00:08:07,778 --> 00:08:10,323 We are looking forward to diving in and listening. 206 00:08:10,323 --> 00:08:13,242 And also talking, where appropriate. 207 00:08:13,242 --> 00:08:16,245 We're-we're great. Thank you for... You didn't ask. 208 00:08:16,245 --> 00:08:18,539 I-I'm sorry, I'm just a little nervous because the... 209 00:08:18,539 --> 00:08:20,291 See, my mother left me when I was young. 210 00:08:20,291 --> 00:08:21,876 Yeah, ah, ah, ah, ah. 211 00:08:21,876 --> 00:08:24,086 I see you nudging in your own trauma, Mr. Sneaky. 212 00:08:24,086 --> 00:08:25,922 We're here to talk about Viv today. 213 00:08:25,922 --> 00:08:27,465 Yes, you're right. 214 00:08:27,465 --> 00:08:30,718 I'll just stuff that back... back, back, back down. 215 00:08:30,718 --> 00:08:34,931 Um, we're really looking forward to hearing your expert opinion. 216 00:08:34,931 --> 00:08:39,393 - So, Viv definitely has ADHD. - Says who? 217 00:08:39,393 --> 00:08:41,812 My comprehensive clinical assessment. 218 00:08:41,812 --> 00:08:44,607 Uh, yeah, no, we're... we're listening. 219 00:08:44,607 --> 00:08:48,194 Yes. So, she is so bright and personable, okay? 220 00:08:48,194 --> 00:08:50,738 {\an8}She is very advanced in reading, 221 00:08:50,738 --> 00:08:52,782 {\an8}she has great humour and empathy. 222 00:08:52,782 --> 00:08:55,243 {\an8}But as you can see, here is the typical range 223 00:08:55,243 --> 00:08:57,620 {\an8}of behaviour for a kid her age, okay? 224 00:08:57,620 --> 00:09:01,958 {\an8}And these spikes here show where she is classically 225 00:09:01,958 --> 00:09:04,544 {\an8}a clinical ADHD kid. 226 00:09:04,544 --> 00:09:07,088 {\an8}Difficulty with executive functions. 227 00:09:07,088 --> 00:09:09,173 {\an8}I know the charts can be confusing. 228 00:09:09,173 --> 00:09:11,717 No, I look at charts all day, so I, yeah, I see. 229 00:09:13,886 --> 00:09:17,807 Okay. So, we'll put her in therapy, 230 00:09:17,807 --> 00:09:21,352 um, once a month or once a week. - You could. 231 00:09:21,352 --> 00:09:24,021 I don't know how much help that would be at her age. 232 00:09:24,021 --> 00:09:26,065 I would highly recommend meds. 233 00:09:26,065 --> 00:09:29,110 I think you will notice a huge difference 234 00:09:29,110 --> 00:09:32,572 once we get the correct dosage. - I'm sorry, no, no. 235 00:09:32,572 --> 00:09:34,282 Absolutely not. - Well, we said we would listen 236 00:09:34,282 --> 00:09:35,741 to the expert's advice. 237 00:09:35,741 --> 00:09:37,702 But this is brain altering meds. 238 00:09:38,869 --> 00:09:41,205 Okay, you have a tough decision 239 00:09:41,205 --> 00:09:44,125 hanging-G over you, so let's discuss it. 240 00:09:44,125 --> 00:09:46,669 Oh, we're gonna discuss it so you can talk us into drugs 241 00:09:46,669 --> 00:09:48,838 like we're at one of your Chili Pepper concerts? 242 00:09:48,838 --> 00:09:50,840 I don't think so. - All right. 243 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,384 Do you have a method for making tough decisions? 244 00:09:53,384 --> 00:09:55,011 - Ahem. - We tend to do 245 00:09:55,011 --> 00:09:57,555 a little bit of a "rock, paper, scissors" kinda thing. 246 00:09:59,557 --> 00:10:00,891 That we... - Which we would never do 247 00:10:00,891 --> 00:10:02,727 in a situation like this. - No, we would not do... 248 00:10:02,727 --> 00:10:04,312 Because the stakes are so much higher. 249 00:10:04,312 --> 00:10:05,605 Right. 250 00:10:13,404 --> 00:10:14,488 Here we go. 251 00:10:14,488 --> 00:10:16,032 Pancakes! 252 00:10:16,032 --> 00:10:18,659 Yes, this is a remix version of Mommy's famous 253 00:10:18,659 --> 00:10:23,122 buttermilk pancakes with no sugar, or flour, or buttermilk. 254 00:10:23,122 --> 00:10:26,000 - What? - Hmm, and what will this solve? 255 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,918 Well, according to my research-- 256 00:10:27,918 --> 00:10:30,463 - Social media sites? - Yes, highly reputable Momfluencers. 257 00:10:30,463 --> 00:10:32,089 - Right, right, right. - There are certain ingredients 258 00:10:32,089 --> 00:10:34,133 that trigger ADHD symptoms more than others, 259 00:10:34,133 --> 00:10:37,178 so kids love pancakes, they're obviously never gonna taste the difference. 260 00:10:37,178 --> 00:10:39,555 This is egg, banana, and they're good, I think. 261 00:10:39,555 --> 00:10:42,391 - M'kay. - This tastes like punishment. 262 00:10:42,391 --> 00:10:44,810 No, instead of being light and fluffy like a pancake, 263 00:10:44,810 --> 00:10:48,356 these are wet and squishy, mm, like a... mistake. 264 00:10:50,024 --> 00:10:51,984 - Can I have some maple syrup? - I don't know. 265 00:10:51,984 --> 00:10:54,487 Does it have sugar in it? - I hope so. 266 00:10:54,487 --> 00:10:56,739 - I'll just have toast. - Okay, let's wrap it up. 267 00:10:56,739 --> 00:10:58,407 Come on, guys, you're gonna be late. Let's go. 268 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:00,826 But the toast. - Come on, come on. 269 00:11:00,826 --> 00:11:03,120 - Go on, go on. - Let's go, let's go, let's go. 270 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:06,666 I know there are studies about how ADHD meds work. 271 00:11:06,666 --> 00:11:09,377 How many weird pancake studies are there? 272 00:11:09,377 --> 00:11:11,003 We don't even know what the drugs do. 273 00:11:11,003 --> 00:11:14,465 What if they make her a zombie or not Viv? 274 00:11:16,801 --> 00:11:19,053 Ah, time for a change. 275 00:11:25,434 --> 00:11:29,980 What's all this about? - Oh, I decided to try that tapas place. 276 00:11:29,980 --> 00:11:33,859 Well, isn't tapas like a bunch of little shared plates for sharing? 277 00:11:33,859 --> 00:11:35,319 Yeah, but I got the bachelor's tapas. 278 00:11:35,319 --> 00:11:37,488 It's like a bunch of one-night stands for your mouth. 279 00:11:37,488 --> 00:11:39,281 And I won't be calling any of them back. 280 00:11:39,281 --> 00:11:41,700 What do you have there? 281 00:11:41,700 --> 00:11:44,161 Oh, I've got a cold, grey pancake. Wanna share? 282 00:11:44,161 --> 00:11:45,913 Did your kids make that for you? 283 00:11:45,913 --> 00:11:48,791 Is it Father's Day? Oh, I gotta text my dad. 284 00:11:48,791 --> 00:11:51,293 No, Viv's got ADHD and the doctor's recommending meds 285 00:11:51,293 --> 00:11:53,712 and Astrid's not into it. So, we're trying this thing 286 00:11:53,712 --> 00:11:56,799 where we remove the joy from our food to see if that helps. 287 00:11:56,799 --> 00:11:58,634 - Pff. - So, if an optometrist 288 00:11:58,634 --> 00:12:00,010 tells you that you need glasses, you'd say, 289 00:12:00,010 --> 00:12:01,679 "Thanks for the advice, Doc, 290 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:03,389 but I think I'll try an enema." 291 00:12:03,389 --> 00:12:04,682 Stupid. 292 00:12:04,682 --> 00:12:06,058 What do you know about it, Beth? 293 00:12:06,058 --> 00:12:07,601 Yeah, Beth, what do you know? 294 00:12:07,601 --> 00:12:10,896 Try "everything". I happen to have ADHD, 295 00:12:10,896 --> 00:12:13,732 unlike you two goons. And IBS. 296 00:12:13,732 --> 00:12:16,986 And sometimes depression, astigmatism, fibromyalgia, 297 00:12:16,986 --> 00:12:19,572 and I'm prone to getting carsickly. 298 00:12:19,572 --> 00:12:21,198 I've been on meds practically my whole life. 299 00:12:21,198 --> 00:12:22,950 I wouldn't be here today without them. 300 00:12:22,950 --> 00:12:25,035 So, do your ADHD meds, do they like, 301 00:12:25,035 --> 00:12:28,664 turn you into a zombie, at all, or like, extinguish your spark? 302 00:12:28,664 --> 00:12:30,916 Sorry, what do I look like, "Girl, Interrupted"? 303 00:12:30,916 --> 00:12:33,210 Do you guys even know what I do on the weekends? 304 00:12:33,210 --> 00:12:35,171 Hello? I'm a majorette! 305 00:12:35,171 --> 00:12:37,506 You ever seen a zombie twirl a baton? 306 00:12:37,506 --> 00:12:38,757 Eh, no. 307 00:12:40,050 --> 00:12:42,136 What's the deal, she can just hear everything we're saying? 308 00:12:42,136 --> 00:12:43,804 Are we screaming? We're being quiet, right? 309 00:12:43,804 --> 00:12:45,222 It's acoustics, is that the deal? 310 00:12:45,222 --> 00:12:47,016 Look, if you're so worried about side effects, 311 00:12:47,016 --> 00:12:49,143 why not test them out on yourself first. 312 00:12:49,143 --> 00:12:51,770 These wear off after like, eight hours. 313 00:12:59,987 --> 00:13:02,031 Uh, I'm so sorry. This is all I had. 314 00:13:02,031 --> 00:13:04,408 I didn't know you'd be joining us for lunch, Astrid. 315 00:13:04,408 --> 00:13:06,744 I haven't seen you since your trip to Europe. 316 00:13:06,744 --> 00:13:08,287 I've been practicing on Duolingo. 317 00:13:08,287 --> 00:13:11,499 I was able to fire people in four languages. 318 00:13:11,499 --> 00:13:14,126 Sei licenziato, Tommaso 319 00:13:15,211 --> 00:13:17,505 I'm sure that felt very authentic to Tommaso. 320 00:13:17,505 --> 00:13:19,006 Grazie. 321 00:13:19,006 --> 00:13:20,633 Astrid, do you have a headache? 322 00:13:20,633 --> 00:13:22,218 Oh, you look like you have a headache. 323 00:13:22,218 --> 00:13:23,636 That face you're making. 324 00:13:24,178 --> 00:13:26,931 Nope. 325 00:13:26,931 --> 00:13:29,016 Viv's doctor wants us to give her meds, 326 00:13:29,016 --> 00:13:31,685 which James agrees with, which is crazy, right? 327 00:13:31,685 --> 00:13:35,481 Totally crazy. I hear reiki and exercise are best. 328 00:13:35,481 --> 00:13:37,441 You can't sweat out ADHD. 329 00:13:37,441 --> 00:13:39,443 Do you remember Barb Huang, our vet, who developed 330 00:13:39,443 --> 00:13:41,987 Foreign Accent Syndrome right after her dental surgery? 331 00:13:41,987 --> 00:13:44,740 - She wasn't really Irish? - Her daughter had terrible 332 00:13:44,740 --> 00:13:48,118 psoriasis until she started taking anti-organ rejecting pills. 333 00:13:48,118 --> 00:13:49,703 Mom, that's not the same thing. 334 00:13:49,703 --> 00:13:51,413 Why? It's medicine and it helped her. 335 00:13:51,413 --> 00:13:53,332 Take it from a nurse, drugs work. 336 00:13:53,332 --> 00:13:56,627 - Hey, sorry I am late. 337 00:13:56,627 --> 00:14:00,381 I was recruiting some hotshot crocheters at a retirement home. 338 00:14:00,381 --> 00:14:04,093 Bo, when you had your mental breakdown, did you take drugs? 339 00:14:04,093 --> 00:14:06,387 Thanks for bringing it up. Yes. 340 00:14:06,387 --> 00:14:08,681 - Oh. - But they didn't work. 341 00:14:08,681 --> 00:14:12,893 Meditation, peyote, and a trip to Joshua Tree 342 00:14:12,893 --> 00:14:14,937 was what realigned my life. 343 00:14:15,813 --> 00:14:17,731 The right meds are effective. 344 00:14:17,731 --> 00:14:19,358 But with side effects. 345 00:14:19,358 --> 00:14:22,027 Stop complicating this with nuance. 346 00:14:22,820 --> 00:14:25,281 Okay, I should go. - Okay. 347 00:14:26,448 --> 00:14:28,033 Can I take some of this meat home? 348 00:14:28,033 --> 00:14:29,869 I'll get you a doggy bag. 349 00:14:31,996 --> 00:14:34,290 My mouth is so dry. 350 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:36,458 Ennis? 351 00:14:37,126 --> 00:14:39,044 You feel a bit clammy, a bit headachey? 352 00:14:39,044 --> 00:14:40,963 Actually, I've never felt quite so clear in my life. 353 00:14:40,963 --> 00:14:42,923 I don't know why I was avoiding doing work for so long. 354 00:14:42,923 --> 00:14:45,384 It is very interesting, and a little bit fun. 355 00:14:45,384 --> 00:14:48,387 My stomach hurts. I don't think Beth's meds are agreeing with me. 356 00:14:49,013 --> 00:14:51,932 Gentlemen. Thank you for taking the threat 357 00:14:51,932 --> 00:14:54,810 of Fintekoäly seriously and working so hard today. 358 00:14:54,810 --> 00:14:56,687 Marla, I am in the zone. 359 00:14:56,687 --> 00:14:58,606 You're gonna have to stay in the zone for the next 360 00:14:58,606 --> 00:15:00,691 few months at least. I'm proud of you, Ennis. 361 00:15:00,691 --> 00:15:02,693 Proud of him? His parents aren't even proud of him. 362 00:15:02,693 --> 00:15:04,403 What are you looking at? Get back to work. 363 00:15:05,446 --> 00:15:07,531 How's the science experiment going, boys? 364 00:15:07,531 --> 00:15:09,074 - I feel gross. - Well, that'll teach you 365 00:15:09,074 --> 00:15:10,576 to take meds that aren't prescribed for you. 366 00:15:10,576 --> 00:15:12,286 You're the one who said it was okay. 367 00:15:12,286 --> 00:15:14,371 Hey, how long does this medication take before it wears off? 368 00:15:14,371 --> 00:15:16,624 I'd like to go pick up some of those intellectual babes in HR 369 00:15:16,624 --> 00:15:18,709 before I turn back into a pineapple. 370 00:15:19,793 --> 00:15:21,921 Ooh, I think it might have already happened, my man. 371 00:15:22,546 --> 00:15:25,090 - Oh. - There he is. 372 00:15:25,090 --> 00:15:26,967 Oh, I've just been typing gibberish. 373 00:15:36,268 --> 00:15:38,562 - You awake? - Yeah. 374 00:15:38,562 --> 00:15:41,523 I'm just thinking about all the ways we could screw up Viv's life, 375 00:15:41,523 --> 00:15:43,734 before I close my eyes and have actual nightmares about it. 376 00:15:43,734 --> 00:15:46,820 I know! I can't figure it out either. I feel awful. 377 00:15:46,820 --> 00:15:48,572 But also, I might be coming down 378 00:15:48,572 --> 00:15:50,240 from those ADHD meds, so I'm not sure. 379 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:51,742 So, after being a guinea pig, 380 00:15:51,742 --> 00:15:53,118 you still wanna give her the meds? 381 00:15:53,118 --> 00:15:55,913 I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. 382 00:15:55,913 --> 00:15:58,624 Maybe they'll help her? 383 00:15:58,624 --> 00:16:00,209 Yeah. 384 00:16:00,209 --> 00:16:02,878 I know, it just feels so wrong. 385 00:16:02,878 --> 00:16:06,090 Hi. I can't sleep. 386 00:16:06,090 --> 00:16:10,344 I think it's because I took a sip of Dad's coffee this morning. 387 00:16:11,178 --> 00:16:13,138 I didn't give it to him. You know how many half-finished 388 00:16:13,138 --> 00:16:14,598 cups of coffee we leave around here? 389 00:16:14,598 --> 00:16:17,476 - Is Viv sick? 390 00:16:17,476 --> 00:16:20,104 I heard you guys talking about medicine. 391 00:16:20,104 --> 00:16:22,856 No, everything's fine, pal. 392 00:16:22,856 --> 00:16:26,026 Yeah, I mean, there are some geopolitical problems happening globally. 393 00:16:26,026 --> 00:16:27,945 - James. - Yeah. 394 00:16:27,945 --> 00:16:29,530 Viv got moved to the front of the class 395 00:16:29,530 --> 00:16:31,490 at school for being a distraction. 396 00:16:31,490 --> 00:16:34,326 She thinks she's in trouble. - She's not in trouble. 397 00:16:34,326 --> 00:16:36,620 Everything is fine, pal. - Mm-hmm. 398 00:16:36,620 --> 00:16:39,748 You're a good brother for being worried about your sister, you know that? 399 00:16:39,748 --> 00:16:41,333 Come here. 400 00:16:41,333 --> 00:16:43,127 Eh, there we go, there we go. 401 00:16:43,127 --> 00:16:46,005 There it is, there it is. 402 00:16:46,005 --> 00:16:49,675 Put an arm up, there. - Oh, okay, okay. Yeah. 403 00:16:49,675 --> 00:16:51,593 Okay, okay. 404 00:16:51,593 --> 00:16:53,554 Can I listen to a podcast? 405 00:16:53,554 --> 00:16:55,180 Uh, no, you can go to bed. 406 00:16:55,180 --> 00:16:57,141 But I will not check on you for 10 minutes. 407 00:17:01,270 --> 00:17:04,606 He hugged back. - Still our little guy. 408 00:17:04,606 --> 00:17:07,067 - Yeah. - Stinks a bit. 409 00:17:09,695 --> 00:17:10,654 Ah, man! 410 00:17:10,654 --> 00:17:11,697 - One! - Oh! 411 00:17:11,697 --> 00:17:13,449 Oh, my God! 412 00:17:13,449 --> 00:17:15,617 Morris is down for his nap which gives us between 413 00:17:15,617 --> 00:17:18,370 10 and 200 minutes to play a board game or shoot a movie trailer. 414 00:17:18,370 --> 00:17:20,914 - Movie trailer! - Viv, what do you wanna do? 415 00:17:20,914 --> 00:17:22,916 Uh, I didn't hear what you said. 416 00:17:22,916 --> 00:17:25,044 That's okay, um... - That's okay. 417 00:17:25,044 --> 00:17:26,628 Seriously? 418 00:17:26,628 --> 00:17:29,631 This is why I keep getting in trouble at school. 419 00:17:29,631 --> 00:17:32,092 Why do I keep doing this?! - Hey, hey. 420 00:17:32,092 --> 00:17:33,802 You're not in trouble, kiddo. 421 00:17:36,472 --> 00:17:38,849 Um, okay. 422 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:41,560 So, Viv, remember when you went to see Shauna, 423 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,480 you guys were playing the games? - And drink hot chocolate. 424 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:48,692 She learned something about you that might um, change things a bit. 425 00:17:49,443 --> 00:17:53,822 - Viv, you have ADHD. - It's a totally normal thing. 426 00:17:54,907 --> 00:17:57,159 It just means that your brain works a bit differently. 427 00:17:57,159 --> 00:17:59,286 I know that. Four kids in my class have it. 428 00:17:59,286 --> 00:18:01,080 Six kids in my class have it. 429 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:04,500 And this one kid has anxiety. And this other kid has red hair. 430 00:18:05,918 --> 00:18:09,755 Okay. Um, do you have any questions? 431 00:18:09,755 --> 00:18:12,674 Do you know if egg rolls have eggs in them? 432 00:18:12,674 --> 00:18:15,302 Okay, I think she's handling this pretty well. 433 00:18:15,302 --> 00:18:17,262 - Can I be done the meeting? - Me too. 434 00:18:17,262 --> 00:18:19,348 - Okay. - Okay, kids, yeah. 435 00:18:21,767 --> 00:18:23,435 They handled that better than we did. 436 00:18:23,435 --> 00:18:26,063 Oh, we are handling it great. 437 00:18:26,063 --> 00:18:29,191 Just trying to help Viv navigate a thing that we barely understand. 438 00:18:29,191 --> 00:18:31,193 Yeah, but I actually have an idea that'll help Viv navigate, 439 00:18:31,193 --> 00:18:33,612 that you're not gonna like. - Is it pills? 440 00:18:33,612 --> 00:18:35,364 It's worse? 441 00:18:37,116 --> 00:18:40,994 Sometimes, you ask yourself, am I doing something wrong-G. 442 00:18:40,994 --> 00:18:43,956 No! The frontal lobe is responsible 443 00:18:43,956 --> 00:18:45,833 for our executive functions, okay? 444 00:18:45,833 --> 00:18:48,001 And is underdeveloped in people with ADHD. 445 00:18:48,001 --> 00:18:50,170 So, it is the parents' job 446 00:18:50,170 --> 00:18:53,882 to act as the executive functioning-G for the child. 447 00:18:53,882 --> 00:18:57,261 The brain continues to develop until age 28. 448 00:18:57,261 --> 00:18:58,637 That, that actually makes sense 449 00:18:58,637 --> 00:19:00,973 because I was very self-destructive until I was 28. 450 00:19:00,973 --> 00:19:02,558 Which is about the time my mother came back-- 451 00:19:02,558 --> 00:19:04,309 No, no, no. Mommy, no. 452 00:19:04,309 --> 00:19:07,020 - Yep, yep, yep. - But destruction can lead 453 00:19:07,020 --> 00:19:08,939 to a very rough road. 454 00:19:08,939 --> 00:19:12,276 But also breeds creation. 455 00:19:12,276 --> 00:19:14,403 You know who said that? 456 00:19:14,403 --> 00:19:16,780 Red Hot Chili Peppers. 457 00:19:16,780 --> 00:19:19,449 Yeah, they also said Catholic schoolgirls rule. 458 00:19:19,449 --> 00:19:21,535 Pretty gross. - Okay, we don't... 459 00:19:21,535 --> 00:19:24,121 we don't need to... - All right, I'm gonna give you 460 00:19:24,121 --> 00:19:29,835 some tools and techniques to help Viv realize her full potential. 461 00:19:29,835 --> 00:19:32,713 The first technique is called scaffolding-G. 462 00:19:33,380 --> 00:19:34,965 Scaffolding-G. 463 00:19:34,965 --> 00:19:39,178 Okay, so you take all of the things in your house. 464 00:19:39,178 --> 00:19:41,180 It's a good thing kids don't need perfect parents, 465 00:19:41,180 --> 00:19:42,639 because there aren't any. Exactly. 466 00:19:42,639 --> 00:19:44,808 I let Felix watch part of a John Wick movie 467 00:19:44,808 --> 00:19:46,768 before bed once and he was not ready. 468 00:19:46,768 --> 00:19:48,478 What? Why did you do that, James? 469 00:19:48,478 --> 00:19:50,105 Of course he wasn't ready for John Wick. 470 00:19:50,105 --> 00:19:53,108 I'm just illustrating that we are not perfect. 471 00:19:53,108 --> 00:19:54,568 Oh, yeah! 472 00:19:54,568 --> 00:19:56,195 Anyway, you learn from your mistakes. 473 00:19:56,195 --> 00:19:58,030 And what you do learn is mostly useless 474 00:19:58,030 --> 00:20:00,199 for the next kid 'cause they're a completely different person. 475 00:20:00,199 --> 00:20:01,992 But you get better at learning. 476 00:20:06,121 --> 00:20:08,957 And we're the biggest majorette coalition in the province. 477 00:20:08,957 --> 00:20:10,584 - No way! - We're thinking of unionizing. 478 00:20:10,584 --> 00:20:12,628 - Oh wow, is that possible? - Yeah, well, if there wasn't 479 00:20:12,628 --> 00:20:14,630 people dragging us back, like Brenda. 480 00:20:14,630 --> 00:20:16,381 Brenda, who steals peoples' routines. 481 00:20:16,381 --> 00:20:18,467 And her routine is really hack, 482 00:20:18,467 --> 00:20:20,886 even though she stole it from me. It wasn't hack when I was doing it. 483 00:20:20,886 --> 00:20:22,846 Like, she wrecked it because she stole it from you? 484 00:20:22,846 --> 00:20:25,015 Yeah, because she's putting her Brenda spin on it. 485 00:20:25,015 --> 00:20:28,018 You know what? It's really actually getting really dramatic around there. 486 00:20:28,018 --> 00:20:29,728 And you'd think, with all the batons twirling around, 487 00:20:29,728 --> 00:20:31,730 there'd be a few more broken legs, but there's not. 488 00:20:31,730 --> 00:20:34,107 But there will be. - You know... 489 00:20:36,360 --> 00:20:38,612 Lunch has been over for hours. 490 00:20:40,113 --> 00:20:43,242 But anyway, Gail, my mentor. She's gonna get us to nationals. 491 00:20:43,242 --> 00:20:44,993 Right. Is she the one that went missing? 492 00:20:44,993 --> 00:20:47,037 - No, that was my first mentor. - Sorry. 493 00:20:47,037 --> 00:20:48,288 And I have been cleared for that. 494 00:20:48,288 --> 00:20:49,581 I've got an alibi. - I believe you. 495 00:20:49,581 --> 00:20:51,458 - I shouldn't say too much here. - Okay.